Thursday, May 21, 2009

Is it a choice?

Is love a choice? I know a lot of people who would argue that love is an emotion. My dad has always told me that lust is an emotion, and love is a choice. I didn't always agree with him, but first hand experience has changed my mind.
Emotions don't make me love him when he's feeling depressed. Emotions don't make me love him when he's moody and upset. It's during those times that I choose to love him still, to listen and talk and help him work through it.
Emotions don't make him love me when I'm in a bad mood. Emotions don't make him love me when I'm being irrational. Emotions don't make him love me when I've been too busy to talk for over a week, or when I'm going so fast that he doesn't even know what city I'm in. But he chooses to love me still. He chooses to let me rant. He chooses to let me cry and then tell me how much he loves me.
If I let emotions dictate our relationship, I might have given up when people I trusted said that we would never last. When my friends turned away from me. Instead, when one of my friends told me I had to choose between him and her, I made my decision. I choose to love him.

2 comments:

  1. interesting post, Chris.

    my two cents: i would say TRUE love is a choice. take Jesus, for example. he CHOSE to die on the cross for me and you... not because of an emotion, because He CHOSE to.

    What about people i see all the time saying "i love you" to random people? (i happened to be one of those random people last week.. lol) its a choice for them to say it, but, did they really mean it? i think not.

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